My manfriend thinks I need therapy....and while i think everyone on the planet could benefit from a few counseling sessions, i think he thinks i need it for the wrong reasons. I like to be appreciated...verbally...like most people. I think it's rude to do something for someone regardless of who they are and they not show some appreciation. He disagrees. He thinks by proxy of being his woman, i should not have to hear the words...i should just magically know that he is thankful, that he appreciates it. Our relationship should not need extra words like thank you for stuff i guess i'm supposed to do. While i understand his logic, i think he's wrong. Just because he doesn't need appreciation or need to hear it, I do. He said, "I hate when you say "thank you" to me". In fact, when i do say it, his standard response is, "yeah, yeah, whatever." Who does that? The correct response is "Your Welcome or My pleasure"
It feels good to say thank you...out loud...regardless if it is implied, regardless if we our lovers or strangers on the street. It shows compassion and the human part of all of us. It's a small way to say, "I appreciate you and the big/small gesture of kindness you sent my way." Me needing to hear it or needing to say it doesn't mean i need counseling or i'm needy or i'm insecure...it means that 1) i'm not rude, 2) i'm human, and 3) no one in my life is beneath getting a verbal appreciation.....dare i say it's normal....it's the right thing to do!
Sometimes, two little words like "Thank You" or "I'm Sorry" goes such a long way to making EVERYTHING better. Am i off? or is he? Is he just emotionally detached that even the smallest gestures of thanks are lost on him? And while it is not in his nature to say the words, do i deserve to at least hear them cause they make me feel like I matter? I don't want you to be fake or disingenuous....but does it really diminish who you are to make me feel human? It's not just him...my students do it all that time....i give and give and they take and take and they forget to say "Hey thanks..for staying late, helping/running our event, making sure i/we don't drop the ball"....do i sound bitter? Ungrateful?
I don't need much...a simple word of thanks now and again....at least on the semi big stuff: you borrowed my car, i made your fave dish, i paid for dinner, i shot and posted 600 photos of your last event...(yea students thats aimed at you) is not a lot to ask and is not a case for counseling....i'm not a mind reader and even though you are thankful on the inside...take one step and let me know you are on the outside. Sometimes we forget, but make an effort to do the stuff that matters...
Have a AMAZING Thanksgiving Day! I hope your day is full of thanks, food, and leaves you feeling special....i think i'm back ya'll...so much to say....i should say it soon
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